Merlin's Code®

Video Script - Overview of Quest 1 | A Man's Timeline

Do you have the feeling that something is holding you back from everything that you actually want in life?

Are you feeling unhappy, confused, discontent or disconnected?

Perhaps you're suffering with low self-esteem or self-worth, or debilitating thoughts of not being good enough.

Are you having a Quarter-Life, Mid-Life or Senior-Life Crisis, fueled by regrets from your past, or simply can't let go of the past and feel stuck.

And no, it's not your job, your relationship, financial situation, family or anything external to yourself.

The problem is you!

Young boys dressed up in men's clothing are often confused by the messages of their childhood.

This course will help you come to realise that it may have a lot to do with the memories you took on as a young boy.

So welcome to Quest 1 of Merlin's Code - A Man's Timeline. This is the first of 5 online courses which comprise the Merlin's Code program, or the first module of the full five-week group learning course which includes a total of 22 hours of Zoom meetings facilitated by one of our Certified Mentors.

A Man's Timeline will take you on a journey, that will help you to discover things about yourself that happened in your formative years that affect you to this very day.

It will help you to get really clear about the "work" you need to do in order to become a man who is freed from the burdens of your traumatized past, and no longer show up as a "little boy" in men's clothes.

A man who no longer allows dysfunctional, and self-limiting beliefs, to unconsciously define who you are.

And, a man who can face your journey ahead, as a confident and sovereign mature masculine.

As you step through your Timeline, you will be guided to contemplate what happened to you in the early stages of your life, that caused you to form your beliefs relating to a range of things, such as women, families, finances and many more.

Whether it's things that your parents did, or didn't do, which created what is known as a father wound, or mother wound.

Or whether it's other traumatic experiences where you were verbally or physically abused, bullied, abandoned or excluded.

Our experiences in our formative years between birth and 21 years old, cause us to develop a shadow self - an unconscious aspect of our personality.

A shadow is an emotional blind spot which functions independently of our conscious awareness.

Shadows exert an unconscious control over our thoughts, emotions and behaviours, which can account for the self destructive behaviours so many men struggle with throughout their life.

This Quest guides you to relook at the outcomes of these experiences differently, and allows you to make conscious decisions about your future, based on a mature male perspective - as opposed to decisions made for, or perhaps by, the "little boy" that still lives within your unconscious self.

You will learn that while you cannot change what happened in your life, you can change your emotional reaction to what happened.

A Man's Timeline covers the significant stages of a man's life, where there are 9 changes (or switches), between each stage or age bracket.

They are called switches, because history shows us that the journey for a man through his life will pass through common stages of personal growth and maturation.

In keeping with the medieval theme of Merlin's Code, the switches are named after the various titles used in those ancient times.

The course guides you through an examination of your timeline starting with birth to 16 years old, up to the first major step towards the mature male at Switch 4 – Warrior - between 28 and 32 years old where the "ManSwitch" helps men realise that life is about taking responsibility.

It is also about realising, that your "biological age", and your "emotional age", aren't always the same. In fact, in most cases, there is always a huge gap.

We've all seen the 50-year-old man, who still behaves like a 28 to 32-year-old who remains stuck at an "emotional age" which does not serve him, his partner or his family well.

As a man approaches 40 years of age, he often hears himself asking, "What the hell is this life all about?"

A sense of doubt, burden, overwhelm and loneliness become another reality.

There is usually a sense of entrapment, and while he continues to do what is expected of him, he develops a wanting that often goes unanswered.

This wanting causes a re-evaluation of his life as he knows it, which is commonly known as a Mid-Life Crisis.

The second major step of the mature male happens at Switch 6, 40 plus years old, known as "The Knights Code".

Within this age bracket usually comes great upheaval, not just for the man struggling with his identity, but at the same time there is often an even greater effect on his partner, children and family in general.

And men at this age usually start to realise that they need to make some hard decisions about their future.

The course then continues to explore the other Switch Zones in a man's life, right through to Legacy and Generativity, from 70 years old and beyond.

For younger men, this knowledge is particularly powerful in helping to understand where his father, grandfather and other older men in his life are at on their timeline, and the influences, decisions and perhaps even struggles they face on their journey through "their" life.

It is important to note that "A Man's Timeline" is a fundamentally important and foundational part of the Merlin's Code program, and we strongly recommend completing this course before moving onto any of the other 4 courses in the program.

I look forward to guiding you through this important quest of self discovery and learning. So let's begin.

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Video Script - Overview of Quest 2 | Life Priorities

Are you a hard-working man, and work so hard that you have no work life balance?

Do you lack a sense of self, and feel that you aren't in control of your life?

Are you experiencing a sense of disconnect, or loneliness in your relationship or family, due to that lack of control over your own life?

Do you struggle with defining clear boundaries in your life? Leading to poor decision making?

As a young man, you were probably taught, either by default, or by observing your parents and their friends, that work and earning money was the most important thing that a man must learn, and the most important duty he must perform in his life.

We realise, that there are many ways to create Life Priorities. Ranging from cars, houses, fatherhood, financial goals, relationships, and many many more. But WYSER Men's Life Priorities are like no other!

The fact that there are four basic priorities in a man's life sounds relatively fundamental, but sadly, this minor awareness usually goes unnoticed in many men's lives, until it is too late!

This Quest will help you come to realise, that your current life priorities may have a lot to do with your conditioning as a young boy, and what was modelled to you during those formative years.

Once these life priorities are revealed to you, they will open a clear pathway to your future, and that of your loved ones, and provide seemingly impossible clarity.

So, welcome to Quest 2 of Merlin's Code – Life Priorities. It is also the second module of the full five week online group learning version, of the Merlin's Code course, which includes a total of 22 hours of Zoom meetings, facilitated by one of our Certified Mentors, and his certified WYSER team.

This Quest, will take you on a journey of personal discovery, that will help you to realise what the most important, and fundamental priorities are, in your life.

You will learn that you are worthy of - and that you deserve - the best and most fulfilling life. And that you can now guide yourself, your relationship, and your family, to better ways of being.

This Quest will provide you with answers, so simple, that you will find it hard to believe that they are true. Your ability to re-program your life, will come very easily, and I assure you, come it will.

It will help you to become a man, who is in control of where you are going in life.

A man, who enjoys a happy, well balanced, harmonious, and fulfilling life and relationship.

And a man, who sets clear boundaries, to ensure the order of your life priorities, is maintained.

As you learned in Quest 1 of Merlin's Code, A Man's Timeline - the conditioning from your childhood and upbringing, shapes most of who you are, as a man today.

This conditioning, in most cases, unconsciously dictates how we, as men, prioritise various areas of our life. It is generally accepted that we inherited our "work ethic" from our fathers, and society in general.

The modelling we had from them was ingrained in us as young men, which included the responsibility to provide for the family we create.

Getting your priorities right, will give you a solid foundation as a sovereign man, and allow you to shape your life, and how you show up as a man, in all aspects of your life. Particularly, in your relationship.

A good example of this, is that if life was a bus, that you are supposed to be driving, does your present choice of priorities place you in the best position to be in control of your future, and allow you to clearly see where you are going?

Generally speaking, a woman wants her man as their life partner. Someone who is clear on his future, who is trustworthy, faithful, reliable and emotionally available. Not a man in little boy shorts.

They want a man who will stand by their side, a man who is reliable, and dependable enough to protect her, and her children. This is what we at WYSER Men call, the natural order of life!

If you get this wrong, your partner may lose respect for you, due to accumulating contempt and resentment. All because of the lack of sovereignty shown by you as her man.

In this course, you will learn how to prioritise yourself, understand life, and respect your wife or partner, and their place in the Team.

You will be guided towards an understanding that family, and family responsibility, are fundamental to men of integrity.

You may even learn to develop a more healthy and balanced relationship with work and your work ethic, and come to realise that your chosen trade, profession, or career, while important, should no longer be an obsession to you.

It is important to note, that following on from "A Man's Timeline", this Quest is another fundamentally important part of the Merlin's Code program. And we strongly recommend completing this course, before moving onto any of the other courses in the program.

I look forward to guiding you through this important quest of self discovery and learning. So, let's begin.

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Video Script - Overview of Quest 3 | The Natural Order

Are you a man who is unable to communicate without conflict?

Do you have difficulty dealing with confrontation, without your emotions turning into anger, rage, and sadness?

Are you unaware of your triggers, and emotional reaction, when challenged or confronted by others? Especially your partner?

Do you constantly interrupt your partner, and show a lack of respect, contempt, or resentment towards them?

If some of these are relevant to you, do you really think that you are being a good role model for your children?

What we all saw as conflict play out in our lounge rooms and kitchens, as boys and young adolescent males, is being reflected yet again by the young men and fathers in our society today.

The reality is that the personal skills and modelling we experienced as a young boy have now vanished.

We believe that the introduction of personal electronic devices within the family home, is producing a vastly different type of modelling, that is giving rise to young men and fathers who have minimal personal skills; a lack of awareness around how to model the role of a responsible husband; and in a lot of cases, men who have no idea about how to be a father.

This is seriously affecting the personal, and inter-personal skills of today's young male adults.

So welcome, to Quest 3 of Merlin's Code – The Natural Order. This is also the third module of the full five week online group learning version of the Merlin's Code course, which includes a total of 22 hours of Zoom meetings, facilitated by one of our Certified Mentors and his certified WYSER team.

You saw in the Life Priorities Quest, the relevance and importance of your choices. Now we expand into the myths and beliefs that people have, around the roles that you and your partner play in your relationship.

This third Quest will take you on a journey that will help you to become a confident and sovereign man, who understands his place in what we know as, the Natural Order - both within your home, and within your relationship.

We will guide you towards becoming a man who creates a harmonious life with his partner, and knows how to create harmony in his home.

A man who approaches conflict with his partner in a controlled and respectful way.

And a man who is a good partner, good father and good role model to your children.

The definition of the Natural Order is, "The orderly system comprising the physical universe, and functioning according to nature - as distinguished from human, or supernatural laws".

This is a journey back to what you saw modelled to you when you were a child, and what has stayed in your psyche ever since.

As a young boy growing up, you observed how your parents interacted in their everyday connection with each other.

Your ideas and understanding of intimacy, sexuality, personal intimate interactions between males and females, how to treat a woman, how to argue, how to react to confrontation, and so on, has all been unconsciously instilled in you.

Today, young adults have a limited understanding of these attributes, and a limited ability to deal with their emotions and confrontation, without them turning to rage, anger and sadness.

With all the changes in our society, relating to relationships, male-female roles, financial and work demands, single mother and single father families, it is no wonder that many men and women are confused as to what "roles" they have within their relationships and households. This is because their responsibilities have changed - in some cases, quite dramatically.

And with that change comes what is often called an Alpha Male, or increasingly more in today's society, an Alpha Female.

This course aims to provide guidance for Alpha Males, and Alpha Females, on how to navigate their respective worlds. Additionally, it also aims to help men gain insights into living with themselves as an Alpha Male or, if they are not one, how a Beta or Omega Man can coexist with an Alpha Female.

Put simply, The Natural Order is a time-proven overview of how to be in a respected and long-term relationship, that allows both partners to be more aware of their responsibilities towards each other, and importantly, towards the next generation of men and women - their children!

It is important to note, that this Quest follows on from Quests 1 and 2 - A Man's Timeline, and Life Priorities.

Each Quest in the Merlin's Code program, is so intricately interwoven with the others, that the individual presentation of each Quest, while having impactful results, is even more powerful when it is fully integrated with all five Quests of Merlin's Code.

I look forward to guiding you through this important quest of self discovery and learning. So, let's begin.

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Video Script - Overview of Quest 4 | Emotional Responsibility

Are you a man who is emotionally void of feelings, and don't know how to share your emotions with your partner?

Perhaps you give your partner the "silent treatment" for long periods of time after a disagreement.

Or are you a man who is emotionally fragile, has poor emotional regulation, a bad temper, and gets angry easily?

Do you think that you might be carrying "emotional baggage" but cannot recognise emotions in yourself or others?

Many men have often bragged to their partners or children, that they don't cry, and that they are O K when it comes to dealing with profound emotional loss or stress.

Sadly, these locked down emotions in a man have, and continue to have, dramatic consequences on the ones he loves.

Emotional Responsibility is about understanding the effects that your emotions have on the way you show up as a man, and more importantly, how your response to those emotions effects those closest to you.

Unmanaged emotions in a man can have devastating effects. Domestic Violence and suicides are rampant within our societies worldwide - and there are no signs that these terrible statistics are abating.

So welcome to Quest 4 of Merlin's Code – Emotional Responsibility. It is also the fourth module of the full five week online group learning version of the Merlin's Code course, which includes a total of 22 hours of Zoom meetings facilitated by one of our Certified Mentors and his certified WYSER team.

This quest will take you on a journey towards becoming aware of your emotional body and help you identify and connect with your feelings.

It will help you become a man who feels emotion in your body, and be able to share your feelings with your partner, family and friends.

A man who is aware of your emotional reactions to life's challenges, and become more Emotionally Responsible in your responses to those challenges.

And a man who has identified and left his emotional baggage behind.

Emotional Responsibility implies awareness, and the ability to control our life, even in difficult circumstances or with high-stress levels.

It is not a question of escaping from what we feel, as we are taught in macho societies, but rather of reflecting on what we experience, and acting on that new knowledge. For example, why do certain circumstances make me angry? What makes me happy? How do I deal with sadness? And how do my emotions affect others?

When there is no, or limited cognitive awareness of emotions in a man, there are distinct possibilities of deep, undealt with "emotional baggage" still active within him, that will cause him to react adversely in any given moment.

And often when asked why he did so, the answer almost always is, "They made me feel angry or sad".

In Quest 1, A Man's Timeline, you had the opportunity to think back to the time in your life when you stopped being your authentic self.

This is a significant process, because when a man remembers the actual event that caused the shutdown, and then deals with and releases what happened that caused that change, there is an opportunity to reset and reconnect with that part of himself that has been locked down for so long.

This Quest aims to bring to your awareness that it is okay to connect with your feelings, and then express them in a practical and supportive way.

Emotional Responsibility brings about a cognitive awareness that when someone asks you "how do you feel?", there is a challenge issued within the man to seek where it is in his body that he feels joy, anger, fear, and or sadness.

And once that is challenged, the emotions start to return and a cognitive awareness of a man's feelings start to emerge – much to the joy of his partner.

The Emotional Responsibility Quest in Merlin's Code has helped countless men over many years deal with how they show up within their personal relationships, with family and friends, and also how they show up at work and in their communities in general.

We continue to promote to all our Graduates the value of "feelings" and the even greater opportunities of recognising them every day of their lives.

If you are completing this course in the correct order, and I strongly recommend that you do, then you will now be starting to realise how the learning from each Quest builds on the foundational learnings of the previous quests in the Merlin's Code program.

So, remain mindful of your learnings from the previous Quests.

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Video Script - Overview of Quest 5 | Family Harmony

Throughout the first four quests of the Merlin's Code program, you have worked on developing the Life Skills to help establish yourself as a sovereign man who is able to clearly understand your journey and purpose in life. We now turn to the way you show up as a man in your own home.

For every man who has chosen the path of fatherhood realises, that with that decision, comes deep responsibility for him to provide and guide his family.

Creating wealth and accumulating assets are all the signals that you are maturing into a responsible man. A family man! Your responsibility to yourself, to your partner, to your children, and to your work environment, is the chosen path of a WYSER man.

Now we turn to something that often goes unnoticed - Family Harmony. And when conscious awareness is given to that need, there is often a deep regret that this has gone unnoticed. For it is something we were never taught by our father or our parents.

Family Harmony, as the name implies, creates a sense of unity and togetherness among family members. It creates a positive atmosphere where conflicts are resolved amicably, and individuals can express themselves freely without fear of judgment or criticism.

It is often noted that when family members feel supported and loved, they experience less stress and less anxiety, and this in turn enhances their overall mental health, and importantly, contributes to a happier household.

Family harmony also fosters a sense of belonging, which is essential for individuals to feel secure and confident in their relationships. For it is from this, that cherished memories, and strengthened emotional connection between family members, is created.

And, the major cause of the lack of Family Harmony in today's modern households is YOU!

In this final quest the realisation that this is YOUR responsibility is usually very confronting to most men!

By recognising the impact of their actions and past traumas on their families and relationships, men have the potential to create positive change.

It is important to understand that one's behaviour can have a ripple effect, which can lead to disharmony and negative outcomes within the home.

Only then can you focus your efforts on creating Family Harmony.

So, welcome to Quest 5 of Merlin's Code – Family Harmony. It is also the fifth and final module of the full five week online group learning version of the Merlin's Code course, which includes a total of 22 hours of Zoom meetings facilitated by one of our Certified Mentors and his certified WYSER team.

This quest will take you on a journey towards becoming a man who shows up as a happy, balanced and loving man, and a good partner and father.

A man who has a positive routine and dedicates time to ensure that your life priorities remain focused, your “cup” remains full, and you understand why that is important to family harmony.

A man who works with his partner to put the strategies and support structures in place to ensure a harmonious home.

And a man who has the life skills to work with his partner to create a life of happiness and harmony within your family home.

Usually, modelling from our childhood unconsciously creeps into our own family. If you take the time to remember back to when you were watching your parents interact, was it harmonious or stressful, especially during your formative years between birth and 7 years old?

And in addition to what was modelled to you, our experience indicates that you are likely to be one of the greatest contributors to disharmony in your family, due to a lack of your own emotional responsibility.

Other causes of disharmony in your family or household may stem from: parents arguing constantly and fighting in front of your children.

Blended Families - new step-parents, or step-brothers and sisters.

Blended parents unable to let go of “protecting their child” from the new partner.

A parent or relative having alcohol or drug problems.

And stresses due to unemployment, money or housing problems.

In this final Quest, you will be guided to understand that Family Harmony means that there needs to be strategies and support structures set up within the family home, by both parents, that help create and maintain a harmonious family environment.

Your responsibility centres around your awareness of what is needed in your household, with one of the most important responsibilities being to be the best communicator you can be to both your partner and your children.

Being a well balanced and emotionally responsible man, and working together with your partner to set mutually agreed boundaries for all members of your family, will underpin the success of establishing Family Harmony in your home.

Remember that your children are watching! So take responsibility for the way you show up, and your family will feel safe enough to connect, communicate, and share their lives in harmony!

This is the final quest of the Merlin's Code program. It requires a knowledge and application of all of the life skills you have looked at throughout the first four Quests.

From WYSER Men's perspective, this final quest is what Merlin's Code is all about – happy, well balanced men, who are good husbands and good fathers. Men who fully take on the responsibilities of manhood and fatherhood and are good role models for their children.

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