Personal Development
Are you looking for a self development program for your man? A program that is like no other that initiates men into Manhood and a new way of being?
Welcome To The Possibility Of
Getting Your Man Back
Do you often dream of getting that special "spark" back in your relationship, or simply wish that your partner would get his act together?
Have you seen your man fade away and disconnect from you and the family?
Is your relationship and family suffering because your man is depressed, stressed, unable to deal with life's challenges, has a short fuse and is emotionally unavailable?
Are you facing the possibility of a divorce and family breakup?
You are not alone. Don't give up just yet.
Take the Quiz
Discover the Health of Your Relationship
This quiz will provide you with an assessment of the health of your relationship and how your partner's development towards Manhood is affecting it. It draws on the work of psychologists John and Julie Gottman, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung, and psychologist and author Robert Moore.
Your responses from the quiz will be used to provide you with actual feedback. The quiz results are based on your personal answers so please be honest with yourself and take the time to answer them properly. When done, press on the Get Results button and you will get your results in less than 2 minutes.
Note: You can select multiple options for each question.
Indicators That Your
Relationship Is Under Threat
There are many indicators that your relationship is not as good as it once was, or not as good as it could be.
Here are some of the indicators of an unhealthy relationship:
- You argue about everything
- There is a lack of intimacy
- There is a lack of trust
- Your partner is highly critical of you
- There is a lack of romance or quality time
- There is disrespect, contempt or violence
Indicators That Your
Partner Needs Help
There are many indicators that a man is not coping with life, carrying trauma from his past or simply refusing to 'grow up'.
How many of the following relate to the way your partner is showing up in your relationship?
- His mood changes frequently
- He can't control his emotions
- He easily tips from Anger to Rage
- His reactions are extreme
- He has low self-esteem or self-worth
- He drops into Victim or Depression easily
- He prioritises work above all else
- He behaves much younger than his age
- He is resorting to alcohol or drugs
Enhance your Relationship and Gain Valuable Insights
Here are some of the things that we help your partner to understand and learn in order for him to be able to improve the way he shows up as a man in your relationship.
We help him:
- Understand how the conditioning from his childhood and upbringing dictates how he prioritises various aspects of his life today.
- Understand his male Timeline and how the challenges faced at various stages of his life affect him today.
- Redefine his connection with you to ensure your relationship survives and thrives.
- Accept his, and your, place in the Natural Order and teach him how to live together with you in harmony and happiness.
- Arrange his Life Priorities in a way that ensures he can fulfill his personal needs while placing you his partner and his family above work and all other less significant matters.
- Connect to his feelings and teach him how to share those with you and his family etc.
- Understand what family harmony is and we show him how with a few changes his home and the people in it can live in Harmony.
How Can WYSER Men Help You?
My Man Needs Help
Is your man struggling with life? Does he carry the burdens of trauma from his past, have a short fuse or is unable to handle the responsibilities of life?
My Relationship Needs Help
Does your relationship need help because your man is struggling with life, has become disconnected from you and/or your family, is emotionally unstable and/or depressed?
Welcome to WYSER Men's Merlin's Code® facilitated online course for Men - a comprehensive online five-week course designed to transform lives. As the partner of a participant, your support is crucial in helping him succeed on this journey. Throughout the program, he will complete course material at his own pace and attend weekly online meetings via Zoom, facilitated by WYSER Men's experienced Certified Mentors and WYSER Elders.
These meetings provide a valuable opportunity for participants to discuss their personal discoveries and challenges. Your partner's active participation and dedication to the course material are essential for a meaningful experience. At certain stages, he will be encouraged to engage in conversations with you, seeking insights and feedback. Your role is to be candid, truthful, and careful, offering compassionate support as he navigates the program's challenges.
We understand that participating in this program may present challenges in your relationship. However, we want to remind you that your partner's engagement in Merlin's Code can lead to a new found perspective on your relationship and family harmony. Many men have experienced remarkable transformations that make the commitment and effort well worthwhile.
This is a great opportunity for both of you to embark on a journey of personal growth, love, connection, empathy and support. To get started, we invite him to complete the Pathway to Manhood Quiz, and we encourage you to complete your version as well (see below). This will provide valuable insights into where you and your relationship stand, and guide you on the steps to take for its growth and survival.
With over 20+ years of experience, WYSER Men firmly believes that both partners must take responsibility for the outcome of their relationship. Initially, your role may involve supporting him on this journey. Furthermore, you will soon have the opportunity to actively participate in our new WYSER Women online course - a facilitated group learning program focused on your personal growth as a woman, spouse, and mother (coming soon).
"Before doing this work I was showing up in my life as an immature little boy. The course is only 5 weeks, and the transformation that I've experienced really felt like an initiation into manhood - starting to become a man and showing up in the world as a man. That's really changed everything, not just for me but my family and my business. No matter what age you are, I would strongly recommend this course to every man."
Tom Hunt
"My life has changed exponentially after doing this program. I've broken the cycle of toxic relationships that I've been in over and over again. Now my relationship is amazing because of the skill sets that I learned through the program, which also apply to my parenting. I've been able to apply those skills to being a better dad, and my relationship with my partner and kids has never been better."
Neil Geddes
"There are very few times in my life when opportunities knock and I'm present to listen to them. And this was one of them. I was hurting a lot. And what I'd like to say to you, whoever's reading this, just take a stab in the dark and do this program for you - and not for anybody else. Because on the other side, there's an opportunity for you to meet yourself."
Puru Kundu
About Merlin's Code
The Merlin's Code Life Skills & Mental Health Awareness course is designed with a solid foundation in modern psychology, incorporating established practices in personal and relationship therapy. It utilizes metaphors to enhance the learning experience for men who follow the WYSER Men path.
Merlin was a mythical advisor to King Arthur and the Knights of the Round Table, known for his wisdom and ability to foresee the future. The knights of the Middle Ages lived by a code of conduct that still captivates people today. Merlin was also a shapeshifter, and his wisdom is woven through Merlin's Code and over time has proven to help many men transform and change not only their lives but the lives of their partners and children.
Merlin's Code is a remarkable course filled with timeless wisdom that holds immense relevance for today's modern men and their families. It redefines modern masculinity and empowers men to embrace their authentic selves. Our program focuses on three key areas:
- sovereignty,
- self-connection, and
- relationships.
By developing these aspects of life, we help men build a strong foundation for a meaningful and fulfilling future.
Self-connection is an integral part of personal growth. We guide men on a journey of introspection and self-discovery to deepen their understanding of emotions, desires, and fears. This process enhances emotional intelligence, improves decision-making skills, and nurtures a healthy sense of self-worth.
In addition to personal growth, healthy relationships are essential for a fulfilled life. We delve into various types of relationships while discussing vital topics such as communication, empathy, respect, and boundaries.
Our training equips men with the necessary tools to cultivate authentic connections with others.
The course helps men make a profound change in their life as a man. As men undergo this transformative journey, their partner will come to admire the man they have become, their children will strengthen their connection with them, and harmony will flourish within their family's home. With these incredible outcomes awaiting you, can there possibly be anything else you could need?
Learn More"I now have a deeper understanding of who I actually am as a man, how I can be authentic in who I am, and share my experiences and emotions openly and honestly. Merlin's Code has helped me be more open and honest in communication within my relationships, build deeper trust in those relationships with awareness of what's going on with myself and my partner, and have open conversations and not be fearful to express myself in a way that my partner can hear me."
Brooke Lucas
"Merlin's Code taught me that the thing I need to focus on most is me. The way I show up, the way I stand, and the way I understand things. Now I've got a better ability to be able to hold my space, to be able to not be blocked by the challenges of life - the ups and downs - and how I'm going to be able to show up for my family and my friends and maintain that."
Jason Spink
"I've learned life skills that have changed me as a man. They allow me to finish my day, and to go home and be a different man when I walk through that door - to be the real me. I've learned to how to deal differently with things in my life, to understand how I'm feeling rather than just getting angry... to consider other options. It gave me different tools that allow me to change the way I react and respond."
Gary Bates
How does Merlin's Code help men become Better Men?
The Merlin's Code program is available in 2 forms:
Facilitated Online Course $1,250
Full 5-week online group learning course facilitated by our Certified WYSER Mentors and Elders which includes 2 x 2-hour Zoom meetings each week.
Individual Self-Paced Modules $97 per module
5 online courses covering each of the 5 Quests which can be completed individually from home at a pace which suits the man's availability.
Quest 1 | A Man's Timeline $97
A deep look into explaining a man's journey across his whole life and how his formative years unconsciously influences the man he is today. This Quest forms the very foundation of The Code.
Quest 2 | Life Priorities $97
You will quickly come to realise that the priorities you have adopted in your life do NOT serve you or your family - giving you a life-changing self-awareness.
Quest 3 | The Natural Order $97
A deep look into relationship and family structures and how there is a natural order to how they can exist in harmony.
Quest 4 | Emotional Responsibility $97
Guides you to re-look at how you're dealing with being aware of your emotions (other than anger) and then learning how to share your emotions and feelings with your loved ones.
Quest 5 | Family Harmony $97
A very important aspect of discovering how your family deserves to live in harmony. You will learn how to create a harmonious family environment, where your children can learn communication, connection, and boundaries all from your modelling!
Merlin's Code (all 5 Quests)$1,250
Facilitated online group learning course covering all 5 Quests (2 x 2-hour Zoom calls per week):
- Quest 1 | A Man's Timeline
- Quest 2 | Life Priorities
- Quest 3 | The Natural Order
- Quest 4 | Emotional Responsibility
- Quest 5 | Family Harmony
"I found out that my physical age was different from my emotional age. I now realize that as a man in his 40s, my emotional age was still stuck in my 20s. I now have an awareness of bringing that gap closer and closer, to be able to improve my relationships with my partner, my family, at work, and primarily with myself. I've also learned to get my priorities in the right order to be able to do that."
Juan Martinez
"My life has definitely changed for the better. I'm now able to communicate what's going on for me and where I'm at, which allows my partner in deeper to me. It also gives us a foundation to be able to sit down and now have healthy communications rather than the way it used to be in past relationships. I'm already working on creating healthier relationships with my kids and my partner."
Duncan Burns
"One of the most important things that's come out of doing the Merlin's Code program is to find a group of men that I'm able to trust on a much deeper level. And in that trust, being able to express myself to the degree that there's no judgment, there's no fixing, but being held, and being able to share things that I probably wouldn't share in any other environment."
Ken Roberts
Money Back Guarantee
Your satisfaction is what's most important to us. If at any time prior to the third Zoom meeting, for whatever reason, notify us in writing that you are not getting value from the Merlin's Code course, and we will give your money back.
Frequently Asked Questions
Merlin's Code is a facilitated online group learning program where course participants complete online learning material and attend a 2-hour Zoom meeting twice per week with all of the other participants (there are 11 Zoom meetings over the 5 week course). This style of learning is called group learning because the Zoom meetings are where the course participants come together online and learn more about themselves and other men by sharing and discussing what came up for them while completing the learning material prior to each meeting).
Each Zoom call is facilitated by one of WYSER Men's Certified Mentors (and also attended by one or more WYSER Elders).
There are 2 Zoom meetings per week, with a total of 11 throughout the duration of the 5-week program. Each meeting usually lasts around 2 hours and is facilitated by one of WYSER Men's Certified Mentors.
The meetings are held on the same days each week, for example, Monday's and Thursdays, and are always at the same time of day. So depending on which course you register for, the zoom meetings might be Tuesdays and Fridays at 10am, or perhaps Mondays and Thursdays at 7:30pm.
The Courses Currently Scheduled page on our website will provide you will all of those details. See https://wyser.men/courses for some 'live' examples.
All Zoom meetings are recorded and made available ONLY to those men attending YOUR course. This allows any man who is unable to attend a particular Zoom meeting to either watch the video of the meeting, or listen to the audio recording, and therefore catch-up on what he missed out on.
WYSER Men creates a group chat on WhatsApp for each course. This allows all participants the ability to message each other to share insights and learnings, as well as ask questions of each other, as well as the Certified Mentor and/or WYSER Elder attending the course.
This is up to you, and will depend very much on the depth of relationship you have with that man. We recommend that you discuss it with him and decide. We have many courses scheduled so there is no need for any hard decisions to be made.
The reason for considering this is because during the Zoom meetings all men are expected to share what came up for them while completing the online course material prior to each meeting. Sometimes the information and emotions that a man shares can be deeply personal, and may not be the sort of thing that a man may want a work colleague, family member or friend to know about them.
On the other hand, learning to share your inner-most thoughts and feelings with a man that you know can strengthen and deepen your relationship, which can result in ongoing support for each other as you continue your journey towards being the best version of yourself that you can possibly be.
The recommended age for the WYSER Breakthrough Experience is 22+. We see that life needs to be lived before a young man accesses this type of work, AND you are never too old to empower and step into your sovereignty.
All Merlin's Code trainings are online with online course material to complete and Zoom meetings to attend. You have choices to make when it comes to completing the course material and it all depends on your computer skills or preferences.
Some men have elected to print out all of the course material and use the printouts on a week-by-week basis to make handwritten notes.
Others complete the course material online by typing their responses into our online system. You can access the online course material well into the future, and can even download the course material at the end of the program with all of your responses to the questions included. Anything you type into WYSER Men's online system is totally private and can only be seen by you!
The Merlin's Code program is delivered online via our proprietary software program. Please ensure that you have Zoom installed on your machine prior to the first Zoom meeting (see the training dates you registered for).
When you register for the program, WYSER Men will provide you with instructions on how to login to our online system and access the online course material.
The Merlin's Code Life Skills training is designed to achieve outstanding results over a 5-week period. Your investment of both time and money is an investment IN YOU.
The program requires a $1,950 investment. For those unable to afford a once off payment, we offer a 4 payment option through PayPal Pay In 4 which you can select when making the payment on the course registration page. You make 1 payment upon registering for the course, and the remaining 3 payments are made at 2-weekly intervals.
If your circumstances still warrant it, feel free to contact WYSER Men by email at admin@wyser.men to discuss your situation and we will attempt to put a special payment plan in place, and in some special circumstances may also offer a discount.
For those unable to afford a once off payment, we offer a 4 payment option through PayPal Pay In 4 which you can select when making the payment on the course registration page. You make 1 payment upon registering for the course, and the remaining 3 payments are made at 2-weekly intervals.
If your circumstances still warrant it, feel free to contact WYSER Men by email at admin@wyser.men to discuss your situation and we will attempt to put a special payment plan in place, and in some special circumstances may also offer a discount.
The answer is "of course you can" the present system supports any man displaying leadership qualities to step up. WYSER Men has 15 fully trained Certified Mentors. Part of the Certified Mentor course requires each man to sit for and hold a Mental Health First Aid Certificate as well. There is also a 6.5-day training program that ensures ALL our Certified Mentors are capable of holding safe the Dragon's Den they are running.
Yes you can. We are very conscious that some men require more information before making decisions so simply call 1300 238 806 or email us at admin@wyser.men to discuss ANYTHING you need to know about WYSER Men and the Merlin's Code program. We are here to support every man on his quest to become a better man.